In Episode 63, Helen Dea Bala (author of Craigslist Confessional) shares why she started Craigslist Confessional, how she decided to quit her job to pursue Craigslist Confessional full-time, and shares her own story of immigrating to the U.S. from Albania.
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Announcement [00:55]
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My plan at this point is to return with a new full length episode on August 19 and resume a normal schedule from that point on.
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In the meantime, I’ll still be sharing what I’m reading on the blog and sometimes on Instagram.
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AND, my bonus podcast content for patrons (support the podcast on Patreon here) will NOT change during my break. I’ll still be releasing 2 bonus episodes per month…one book recommendations episode and one Superlatives episode.
Highlights
- How a conversation with a homeless man in front of her D.C. office building gave Helena the idea for Craigslist Confessional.
- The story of quitting her job as a lobbyist to pursue Craigslist Confessional full-time.
- How her parents (who were extremely proud of her job as a lobbyist) felt about her quitting to do Craigslist Confessional full time…and how their feelings were shaped by their immigrant experience.
- How / why she decided to just listen to her Craigslist subjects without offering advice and what that was like.
- The logistics of getting these personal conversations into book form.
- How she cared for her own mental health while being enmeshed in these oftentimes horrific stories.
- What it was like to listen to stories told by the person who was doing the harm (rather than the victim).
- The two subjects she’s kept in communication with since their initial conversations.
Helena’s Book Recommendations [36:43]
Two OLD Books She Loves
- Bad Behavior by Mary Gaitskill | Buy from Amazon [37:02]
- Stay Up With Me by Tom Barbash | Buy from Amazon [40:00]
Two NEW Books She Loves
- Make It Scream, Make it Burn by Leslie Jamison | Buy from Amazon [42:42]
- No One Tells You This by Glynnis MacNicol | Buy from Amazon
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One NEW RELEASE She’s Excited About
- Want by Lynn Steger Strong (Release Date: July 7, 2020) | Buy from Amazon [45:47]
Rate It Game [48:47]
Other Books Mentioned
- Craigslist Confessional by Helena Dea Bala | Buy from Amazon
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- Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed | Buy from Amazon [7:50]
- This Is Pleasure by Mary Gaitskill | Buy from Amazon [37:38]
- The Girl on the Plane by Mary Gaitskill (Short Story) [37:51]
- The Mare by Mary Gaitskill | Buy from Amazon [38:37]
- Stray by Stephanie Danler (My Review) | Buy from Amazon [39:32]
- The Dakota Winters by Tom Barbash | Buy from Amazon [40:10]
- The Empathy Exams by Leslie Jamison | Buy from Amazon [42:52]
- All the Single Ladies by Rebecca Traister | Buy from Amazon [45:07]
- Why We Can’t Sleep by Ada Calhoun (My Review) | Buy from Amazon [47:40]
- Mindhunter by John E. Douglas | Buy from Amazon [50:29]
- Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed | Buy from Amazon [12:45]
Other Links
About Helena
Helena Dea Bala immigrated to the United States as a child. To make ends meet during those difficult first years, she helped her mother clean houses on the weekends. She graduated Phi Beta Kappa from George Washington University and worked to become a lawyer and lobbyist in Washington, DC. After her day job left her feeling disconnected and unfulfilled, she deferred her student loans, applied for a credit card, and gave herself one year—one year to just listen. Five years in, she now does Craigslist Confessional full time. Find out more at CraigslistConfessional.com.
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what a great podcast!! I’m also reading Want and really enjoying it. Loved Craigslist and definitely think it filled my tiny beautiful things shaped hole.